IJSP Number 4, 2022

31 didn't characterize you or me. Each novelty I went through over time turned from a slight anxiety and a slight worry / confusion (sometimes) into a joy, curiosity and emotion of discovering the new, an interesting and intriguing challenge that became a way of being”. “I don’t remember a specific moment because I didn’t pay attention to difficult moment, these did not interest me but I can say that I did not regret anything and I would not change anything we went through. Thank you for everything, I bow before you.” - Shame, anxiety in front of the supervisor and the group. As time goes on, supervisors may no longer pay attention to the shame that supervisees go through when exposing cases. The suggestion is to remember that in those moments when the supervisee exposes oneself, impotence, ignorance, and many others that define the supervisee as a person with vulnerabilities are brought to the fore, and if the supervisor greets the situation with dry professionalism, the supervisor resembles a surgeon who does “live” surgery. A “local anaesthesia” is necessary in this case and not a cryogenics. During those moments the supervision relationship meets the therapeutic relationship, the relationship between two professionals, and the relationship between two open and honest people. “The moments when I was reluctant to share c ertain supervision needs that I considered a little embarrassing (for example, parallel process and erotic transfer). Although later, urged by the supervisor, I worked on these issues in individual therapy, the fact that I brought the cases related these issues to supervision helped me to be much more fluent and prepared when I brought them individual psychotherapy” The supervisor greets the supervisee as a person and trains that person to become a professional. The supervisor sets the tone for the supervision group atmosphere; the supervisor is the one who gently or firmly stops the manifestations of a group that risk injuring some members of the supervision group. “In general, for me, the critical moments of the relationship would have been ruptures caused by lack of empathy, calm, encouragement, interest and commitment from the supervisor or criticism and judgments brought by the supervisor. Most likely, if these ruptures had not been repaired, I would have stopped supervision maybe even after checking only 2-3 items from my list of cases and transferred to another supervisor”. “One aspect that I believe contributed to a good supervisory relationship was the way in which the supervisor could take the form of one or more roles (monitoring, training, consulting, support, etc.) and the fact that we could choose this role thus expressing our expectations, and the expression of expectations defines and stabilizes a relationship”. “For me, the supervisory relationship has certainly been a safe place, a refuge, a source of knowledge, and it has helped in build me as a psychotherapist, in building self-confidence, to alleviate performance anxiety and alleviate the fear of failure.” - Creating a safe space for an optimum expression so that the supervisee is open to mentioning problematic issues that could lead to the rupture of the supervision relationship.