IJSP Number 6, 2024

97 choice is possible, a choice more free from introjects, a conscious choice that is even more in tune with the evolutionary flow.” [18] And, one page further, Roger concludes, in the most specific humanistic point of view, that: “The crucial point is that when a person is functioning fully, there are no barriers, no inhibitions, which prevent the full experiencing of whatever is organismically present. This person is moving in the direction of wholeness, integration, a unified life. Consciousness is participating in this larger, creative, formative tendency.” [19] And that should be everyone’s life challenge: to find a way “in the direction of wholeness” meaning integration – not of the demands of the society, or the workplace, or the social-media – but of what oneself is and can be in order to achieve a unified and integrated life. Although, at least apparently, self- importance is something expansive and does not comprise barriers or inhibitions, it is not very functional. Self-importance is not at all a ‘formative tendency’ and, if it is creative, its only creation is a functional mask that has rather the role to protect the individual (and his internal fragility and insecurity) than to allow him to fully function. It is by the involvement of self-esteem that somebody leaves habitual barriers behind and forgets all about inhibitions in order to express his or her true potential, uninhibited and unrestrained by the social calculus of conveniences or politically correctness. Such superficialities do not count any more for a liberated person. As such, self-esteem is not only an existential position of departure but also of arrival. Once someone goes for it, it will enhance itself with the help of the constant reiterations of positive feed-back loops in an ever-growing process of self-development. 5. CONCLUSIONS …you’ve gotta make your own kind of music Sing your own special song Make your own kind of music Even if nobody else sings along. Mama Cass Elliot, Make Your Own Kind of Music As an existential position, being self-important gives a unique and, in the same time, unilateral perspective onto the world and inevitably onto others too. If one is self-important, others cannot be in the same category! One is, consequently and undeniably, in one’s own league! Or, in other words, others cannot be as