IJSP Number 1, 2019

70 By corroborating all information available it resulted that the client’s motivation for change was high, because she wanted to “be someone”, to earn money in order to be financially independent, the family present situation not being so good. The purpose of therapy was the obtaining of a general wellbeing state, the increase of self-esteem and the removal of anxiety states. It was commonly agreed that the client had all resources needed (what she already knew being educated and smart) and that she had all the solutions to the problems presented during the first session. Both participants in this relations decided to consolidate trust, to help her better manage her emotions, to use certain relaxation techniques and more efficient communication methods, her being a person who didn’t express her point of view, unless she was certain to be right, a characteristic of her low self-esteem. The cause of this low self-esteem came from a deficit in the support and encouragement offered by her parents, who each followed his/her road not including the client’s, who was always left alone at home. This also resulted from the lack of her step-father in her rising. But why did this case block the therapist and brought difficulties from the first session? The client was an adolescent in need of affection, who feared her future and lack trust in herself. The therapist is also a mother of two adolescents, a 19 years old boy, already a faculty student, with a high self-esteem level, who passed numerous hours of “family therapy” on order to become the person he is today, but by overcoming challenges from his early adolescent life. The second adolescent in the family is a girl, almost 18 years old who was also getting ready for her faculty life and who is facing different “problems” specific for her age, being in a full process of development and changes in her life. Also being a professional athlete, she is now facing medical problems, which force her to interrupt her training, fact which led to anxiety. In addition, during her first three year of life she was in the care of my mother–in-law and I saw her only during weekends, so the time spent together was limited. Psychotherapy may facilitate wounds from the past and now the therapist faced an adolescent which overlapped her emotions to the therapist’s experiences connected to her daughter, the adolescent in the family. After reflecting on feelings and after exposing the case during supervision, the source of blockages faced with the client was discovered. On a biological axis, of the integrative strategic model of the self [2], questions on the manner in which the anxiety of the daughter was held by the therapist were raised and thus the conclusion that both girls were preoccupied with their image, of the fact that they were weak and that they needed to fit the norms of today’s society was underlined. In addition, the challenge of maintaining a certain standard, a high one in the therapist’s life, not only in the present but also in the past, always being of an optimum weight, not being strong bodied and “accepted”, all this led to becoming aware that this problem on this axis was not