IJSP Number 1, 2019

57 was hanging out with when she turned 11. This moment coincides with the moment when Gelu came into her mother’s life, her future husband. From that moment, for her mother this man was the only thing that existed. A.G.F. felt more alone than ever. Her mother married Gelu when she was 12, and after the marriage Gelu moved in with them. A.G.F. developed a somewhat close relationship with Gelu in the following years, managing to communicate with him much better than with her own mother. At this age, A.G.F. considers that her life changed radically when she lived, by her own saying, her first traumatic experience that will mark her forever: the first rape. Stirring through her painful memories, the student told me what had happened: she was at a party with her group of friends. The party was held at a house in Giroc by some older boys she only knew out of sight. Here, everything was alright until a certain moment after which she no longer remembers anything, just that she woke up alone in a room with her clothes thrown by the bedside and a very bad headache. Five months had passed after that terrible day until she found out exactly what had happened to her that night at the party: she was drugged, someone spiked her juice and the boy she most talked with, the same boy that organized the party was the one that took advantage of her. Even though she did not call the cops, because of the time that had passed since the event, and because of feelings of fear, shame and the terror of being questioned, A.G.F. decided at least to tell her mother what had happened. Her mother did not believe what her daughter told her, she did not believe that her daughter went through this traumatic event. Even more, her mother told her that she believed that she invented all of that just to explain all her problems at school. Hearing the things her mother said and thought, A.G.F. felt, for the second time in her life, betrayed by the person that gave birth to her, that brought her into this world. Because of this in the next two years her relationship with her mother had cooled even more from an emotional point of view, the two of them behaving like two complete strangers, the person who established the communication between them being Gelu. Over time, in their home in Giroc, in which A.G.F. lived with her mother and Gelu, moved, for a period of time Emil, Gelu’s brother who was 20 years old. His intention was to live with them for a couple of months until he would manage to find table work in Timisoara, so he could save some money and move alone in a rented apartment. From the moment Emil moved in with them, the problems for A.G.F. began to appear. She felt and saw that she was always being followed by Emil, she met him everywhere (even in places she frequented with her friends), he would sneak into her room and she began to fear to be left alone with him in the same room. Because she only talked the bare minimum with her mother, A.G.F. did not