IJSP Number 1, 2019

35 compatibility at the cognitive level, that of understanding and explaining the problem and, for sure, a compatibility at the personality level between therapist and client. Also, the therapist-client compatibility refers to the attitudes and values to which the two of them retrospect to and in this way, the differences favourably influence the client’s positive changes as shown in a series of studies realized by Bert van Luyn and collaborators [3]. Other authors conclude that it is a big help, in a first stage, to identify the type of client attachment, the client had with the parental figures, an attachment which will be mirrored in the client-therapist relationship [4]. The compatibility chances in a client-therapist couple are greater if there are more common elements in their lives, for instance: age, social identity, a similar life line, similar experiences and perceptions, etc. There are situations during therapy when the therapist, finds the relationship with the client incompatible. The most efficient way of setting the compatibility between the two participants during therapy consists in the therapist’s ability to analyze his/her own feelings, perceptions, emotions, to understand and give them a meaning. [5] 3.2. FACTORS WHICH NEGATIVELY INFLUENCE THE THERAPEUTIC RELATION. EXAMPLES OF DYSFUNCTIONAL RELATIONS As in the case of any other human relations, the therapeutic relationship is also a delicate connection between two people, which can be – sometimes – very different; that’s why this type of relationship needs tender and discreet borders designed between human universes, found in a common agreed duality. A great variety of new situations can show up on this fragile territory, provocative ones that can affect, in a greater or a less extent, the therapeutic relationship and the greater the frequency of these situations, the more direct referral is made towards the transfer phenomenon and its echo the counter-transfer. Similar to the therapeutic relation, the transfer is also a valuable tool in the therapeutic process. But it can become, for the inexperienced therapist and not only for him/her, a blockage or an unstable field, when it reacts in countertransfer and interrupts the process; this way he/her loses the opportunity of using transfer in the benefit of therapy. In these situations, the countertransfer or the counter- resistance can generate tacit conflicts between the two participants to the therapeutic process, fact that can seriously affect the therapeutic relation. It is sufficient to remind here that the expression of fury by the therapist, a disinclination or repulsion to client’s behaviour can generate conflicts which smoulder along the entire period of therapy, intensely affecting the relationship and the therapeutic process. Empathy is an essential feature that a therapist must have. If this lacks or it is given away in the favour of some regular and rigid working skills, then the therapist can ”lose contact with the reality of his/her patient” [6]. In this